Sometimes we have to distance ourselves from people not because of who they are or what they’ve done or failed to do, but because of who we become when we’re connected to them. Loving people draw love out of others, same with positivity, honesty, etc. Make sure you’re around people who help you reveal everything that’s amazing about you!
Over the weekend, and even today, countless people, including myself, across all skin hues, ages, backgrounds, and genders/gender non-conforming, etc. have used the hashtag #metoo to share with the world that they’re survivors of sexual assault or harassment, or both, and to create awareness. My heart continues to break as my timelines are full of folks sharing their stories and pain. It is an epidemic where people are silenced, shamed and ridiculed. According to RAINN, 1 in 6 American women has had a sexual violence experience. Although the fact is that many women have suffered through such cruelty, the truth is that it was not my fault, your fault, nor your friend, lover’s, sister’s, brother’s, mother’s, etc. fault. We are not responsible for others’ actions, but we can take control of our healing. Whether it’s praying, writing, therapy, mediation, or taking a break from the triggers of the news, social media or everyday life, be sure to take care of yourself. The truth is that you’re loved, valuable, beautiful, powerful, limitless, and worthy of goodness. You are the only one who can take care of you better than anyone. It’s what God wants us all to do!
At one point or another, we all deal with fear, in some capacity. Whether it’s anxiety, stepping out of your comfort zone, or worrying about the future, fear is a part of life. For me, my fears have shown up in four distinct ways, more so related to my dreams and writing, filmmaking. For me, fear has shown up in being concerned with failure, embarrassment, attack (harsh public criticism), and rejection (fear). At different times in my life, and sometimes all at once, they’ve kept me from doing what I really wanted to do, be who I really wanted to be. It took me years to start my blog because of these concerns, and when I was ready to dive in, I almost quit and said forget it. Now, I’m working on replacing these fears with affirmations and truths. God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind. This means that failure nor embarrassment, attack or rejection can stop me from living, being who God created me to be. So for now on, I’m going to fight against the fear of failure by doing everything my heart leads me to do, no matter what; fight against embarrassment by accepting who and what my heart leads me to be; fight against attack by speaking what my heart leads me to say; and fight against rejection by loving myself unconditionally. Let’s not allow fear to win. Let’s take control of our lives, and selves and choose to live free!
A few weeks ago, it hit me. Frustration took over. Fatigue took over. Distraction ran every moment. Sadness took root. Hopelessness filled my heart. Confusion filled my mind.
I was depressed. For no apparent reason, I was here again. At least the third time this year. A season I am tired of revisiting, of reliving, of fighting repeatedly. Continue reading
Good afternoon and Happy Indigenous Peoples’ Day! The truth is…this land, and everything that built this nation was stolen! Let the truth be known and declared to all! Let’s not celebrate false narratives nor history!
There is a difference between being free, knowing that you’re free, and living like you’re free. There is a difference between being loved, knowing that you’re loved, and living like you’re loved. There are levels to this, lol. Make sure, that with any and every thing you receive, whether it be peace, joy, wealth, love, freedom, confidence, wisdom, etc., that you use it to enrich your life and help others do the same. Don’t just get to get; receive to transform in some type of way. Receive to become, know to become, do to become, a better version of you!
Good morning and Happy Monday! My heart goes out to the victims, family members and everyone injured by the shooting in Las Vegas. I can’t imagine what it’s like to experience a tragedy like this one, and I pray that the space to mourn, healing and wholeness is gifted to all impacted. America’s truth is being revealed right before our eyes. Let’s pay attention, let’s call it all out, let’s do the work to change it. It’s the only way things are going to get better.
Without injustice and inequality, number 45, North Korea preparing for war, local, state and national government failures, hurricane disasters, etc., life still remains difficult to navigate, build among opposition, and make real what we hope and envision. With all of these things, it can seem like doing anything worthwhile is either a waste of time or impossible. While we fight for what we want, what we need, and the world we want to see, we must remind ourselves that there is still beauty in the struggle. Waking up every morning, the sound of a baby cooing, flowers blooming, leaves transforming, inviting us to a season of change, and bright, blue skies that show dark days don’t last too long. Amidst all of the heartache, there is something in life to celebrate, to uplift, to enjoy, to love. Find it, absorb it, and share it. Light is the power of life!
For the past several months, I’ve been trying to establish a daily routine that will help me get more done, nurture my soul and maximize my time.
In real life, though, the snooze button became my best friend when the alarm went off every morning, making it a struggle to wake up at the same time every day. I also stayed up late, binge watching whatever was on Netflix or Hulu, trying to fill some type of void that I couldn’t explain. Continue reading
You can’t make something right if you don’t first acknowledge that there is a problem! Be honest with yourself, the people you love, and the world about your experiences, your truths. Don’t ever let false information be presented or believed as true. Whether it’s calling people out, protesting, correcting, sharing; let the truth, your truth, be known!