Earlier this week, I was on Facebook unfriending someone who I really don’t have to be friends with, but could just follow. As I was switching this up, I saw a new option for ignoring or getting rid of people on your friends list. LOL. It’s under “Unfriend” and above “Unfollow”. Guess what it’s called? “Take a Break”.
So basically, the “Take a Break” option removes them from your feed, notifications, etc. for as long as you choose. You can also limit what they see from your posts, including those from the past that include you and them.
When I saw this, I was like, huh? Take a break from a “friend” who isn’t a friend in real life. Why wouldn’t I just delete them? If I’m ready to unfriend then you’ve used every ounce of my patience, and I have A LOT, so I’m usually done for good.
But then again, I guess it’s better than unfriending someone, changing your mind, then requesting them again, for them to ask you what happened. Then you might have some ‘splainin’ to do. So I get it. I guess I kind of like it, lol.
I started to think about something, though. What if we could press a button in real life that would allow us to step away, pause, and take a break from family and friends, without them even knowing, or feeling hurt, offended, and betrayed?
Wouldn’t that be amazing!? (Maybe this is just an introvert thing)
The thing is, the truth is, that we can.
All we have to do is explain to them what we need, and maybe why. If they don’t understand it, it’s something they will have to deal with. If they accept it and love you just the same, they’re exactly the type of person you need in your life.
Every once in a while, I NEED a break from human beings. They can be really exhausting, frustrating, overwhelming and annoying.
As much as I love them, I only have so much energy for them from day to day, week to week.
There’s nothing wrong with stepping away to recharge so you can offer more to those around you. There’s nothing wrong with protecting your space. There’s nothing wrong with pulling back for a while.
But if this is what you need, and you have people in your life who love you and might not get it, make sure you explain it to them. Make sure they know that it has nothing to do with them and everything to do with the way you’re wired.
Do you need to take breaks to recharge, rest and take care of yourself? If so, how do your family and friends normally respond?
Be loved. Love you. Be love.
*Photo Credit: Nappy