8 Truths to Find Yourself When You’re Lost in Others’ Opinions

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Have you wanted to say what needed to be said, but didn’t? Have you yearned to do something that you felt in your heart you should do, but changed your mind? Have you made decisions based on others’ advice versus following your intuition?

If you answered yes to most of these questions, then you might agree that sometimes, or most of the time, you concern yourself with what others might think or have to say about what you think, say or do, or even who you are.

For me, social gatherings and situations used to cause so much anxiety because I was afraid to be my true self and to let my guard down and just be me.

I didn’t know who I was. I knew what and who I didn’t like (because they teased me for being me), and I knew what I believed was right or wrong, but I wasn’t familiar with what it meant to express who I was at the core.

It’s no fun to live this way, because it’s almost impossible to build intimate, long-lasting relationships, especially friendships and romance, if you aren’t being yourself.

No one will truly know you and you won’t truly know, or love, yourself.

Over the last several months though, I’ve become the most confident I’ve ever been in my life, and I feel so good about who I am, where I’ve come from and who I’m becoming. I’ve learned a few things about how to find, love and be yourself.

If you want to learn how to be comfortable in any situation, around anyone, then you must embrace, accept and remember the following:

  1. You are loved by God exactly as you are. The Creator designed you to represent His glory, love, beauty and magnificence. You are perfectly imperfect.
  2. Your voice is valuable. Your voice is valid. Your voice is unique to your life experiences. The world needs your voice.
  3. You were made to connect with and speak to the heart, soul and mind of a certain type of person. If you aren’t being yourself, they’ll never experience your magic and/or they healing they need.
  4. Expressing yourself honestly gives other people permission to do the same. Whether it’s the clothes you wear, the way you dance or the risks you want to take; you being you helps other people (especially those like you) shed their masks.
  5. Your intuition, informed by and connected to God, is the most powerful guide you could have. If God tells you to do something, no matter how crazy it seems, or wild others call it, it’s right. You’ll know it’s from God because it will be rooted in love, and will help, not hurt, others.
  6. If the people around you don’t love you as you are, and as you become more of who you were born to be, then they never really loved you in the first place. More than likely, they accepted you because they were comfortable with the ways you reflect who they are.
  7. Don’t compare yourself to other people. You are who you need to be and have everything within you to get where you desire to be and what you desire to have. Believe it. Choose it.
  8. Opinions are often other people’s interpretations of who you are and what you’re capable of based on how they see themselves. Don’t limit yourself to others’ insecurities.

Live your life the way your heart and soul lead you to live it! God guides you to your purpose by using who you are to get where you’re supposed to be and touch who you’re meant to touch.

Have you faced challenges in discovering and living who you truly are? How do you choose to live your life regardless of what people might think, say or feel?

Be loved. Love you. Be love.


*Photo Credit: Brown Girl Bloggers

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