This week, my lessons for life focus on living your best life and learning to love others. If you missed part one of this three part series, check out 30 Life Lessons I’ve Learned in 30 Years (Part One) now!
- Live your truth, there’s no time in life to fake it.
If you’re a blerd, prefer to eat versus exercise, enjoy sci-fi over reality TV, or books over movies; love it, accept it, be who you are, and how you feel like being you. As long as you aren’t hurting anyone else, be you to the fullest extent! Discover, develop and celebrate you!
- Talking to God can help you with depression, and sometimes it comes in the form of therapy, self-motivation, etc.
Every once in a while, I get depressed and/or discouraged, for no apparent reason, and sometimes it hits me hard. I know that God doesn’t want me, or us, to be depressed or discouraged, but He wants us to seek help. Through the Bible, I’ve learned that depression and discouragement often follow great achievements or spiritual victories; they can also come because of the realities of life. I get through both with Psalm 42:1-11, especially verses 1 and 5-6, by talking to God (out loud) and therapy from a God-believing counselor. Seek and get what you need. Tell God how you feel and He will send what you need.
- The Bible is full of – like you and I – imperfect people.
You will never be perfect, nor will anyone else be. The Bible teaches us and helps us to understand what it means to be a human in the world – inherently flawed, created by a flawless Being, yet we are perfectly imperfect. Not one person in the Bible was perfect, so don’t EVER try to be. Your best is all you have, so be, seek and become it, each and every day you have breath!
- Black Lives Matter. Black is beautiful. Black is godly.
God created us in His image, therefore our Blackness is beautiful, divine and wonderful! We are loved by God therefore we matter, our lives have value, and we are worthy of love. Embrace who God created you to be – from your melanin rich skin to your hair, eyes, nose and body. Blackness is beautiful in all of its shades, shapes and experiences – be proud of your Black glory!
- Instead of judging people, seek to understand them.
My definition of judging others is determining another person’s worth based on their decisions, beliefs, actions or opinions. It’s also determining what someone does or doesn’t deserve based on what they they’ve done or who they are. Describing things as they are or recognizing the nuances or future implications of situations, people or places is not being judgmental.
People make decisions and do things for all sorts of reasons. Some act and speak from a place of pain, weakness, void or lack. Get to the root instead of focusing on what you see or hear.
In doing so, you not only learn about human nature, behavior, etc., but you also learn about yourself.
- Mistakes are necessary for growth; don’t avoid them but embrace them.
Some say that the best teacher is experience. I’d have to agree. You don’t know what you don’t know until you’re in the thick of things. You’ll get to your destination by discovering the wrong way. Mistakes show you not only your weaknesses, but your strengths. They also push you to transform your weaknesses into strengths, or use your strengths to overcome them. You can plan all you want, but sometimes you need to know and sense more than anything else. See everything you go through as an opportunity to learn and grow.
- Walk by FAITH not by sight!
Live by what you choose to believe, not by facts, or what you see or don’t see. You noticed that I said “choose”. It’s because we have a choice regarding what we choose as the dominant message in our hearts, souls and minds. What dominates becomes reality. Be mindful of this. Speak, think on, meditate on, live and breathe what you want to see in life, what you want to see come true.
- Everyone was born with a purpose.
God created each one of us on purpose with a purpose. You were born for a reason, to fulfill a purpose determined by the One who created the stars, moon, ocean, flowers, butterflies and the galaxy. He created you in love, with love, and part of your purpose is to reflect His love. If you ask God to reveal the reason you were created, you will receive an answer. Your purpose often lies in what brings or has brought you pain, a problem you’d love to solve or the things you want to change about the world.
- Never stay in any situation that oppresses and subdues your light.
In 2014, I worked at a public relations agency, and almost immediately – definitely by four months – hated it. I knew that I wouldn’t be there long, but I knew that I should stay a year for the sake of my resume. It was the toughest year and two months of my life! I was miserable, sick a lot, stressed and tired. It took weeks for me to detox the place after I resigned, but I’m glad I did. I say this to say, don’t EVER stay in a place – a job, relationship, partnership, friendship, etc. that oppresses who you are, including the light that is inside of you.
- The storms of life help us appreciate the rainbows.
2016 was a rough year for my family and me. We lost a family member on each side of my family and so did my husband. From February to June, we lost a family member each month. To say that last year was cruel is an understatement. The darkness was real, but so was my human desire to make sense of such loss. I’ve talked to God plenty of times about it, the purpose of pain, grief, sorrow, loss. I quickly realized that the storms of life allow us to appreciate the rainbow. I have learned to view challenges and tragedies as opportunities for growth, to become who it is I truly want to be. To get to the great points in life, we have to endure and get through the trials, pain and suffering.
I hope these pieces of my heart, soul and mind are have been helpful!
Are you ready for part three, the finale of this wisdom-rich series? If so, read 30 Life Lessons I’ve Learned in 30 Years (Part Three) now!
Be loved. Love you. Be love.
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